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  1. So my life is a mess, About a year ago I put money on an online gambling website thinking I'll win loads of money, i have a good job it's average pay, I work my arse off and at the end of the month I have nothing to show for it expect tears and that horribale feeling in my stomach. I've gambled a lot and hid it from my gf she's finally found out and begged me too stop, I though I could get a hold on it but I was so wrong, it's got to the point were I'm spending literally all my wage the same day I get paid and having nothing left with in a couple of hours, the more I put it the more I think I'm going to win it back.I'm 27 never though at this age I would be in such a mess, cant save for a house which my patner wants, I keeping letting her down and breaking her heart, it's took me so long to realise it's became a big problem,today I gamble 600 on online slots I thought I had it sorted paid for driving lessons, bought a couple of things I was flying then I sat down for five minutes and though I could win what I've spent on joining a new casino website "beginners luck" the more I put it the more I lost the more I put it again, so I'm left with 20 for the rest of the month no money to get to work no money to pay for food for work, no social life again, made plans with friends now I'm going to have to tell another lie as I can't go, this is a dreadful feeling, the worst part about it is I've told my gf and now she's can't deal with this anymore which she is right I'm a mess and can't be trusted with money anymore, that's over best thing that's happened to me and I chose to gamble instead. I hate this feeling and want this all to stop but I just don't know how, I'm embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone so o thought maybe this could work
  2. Addiction of any kind is a problem. And most addictions result in complications and disruptions in: · Personal, domestic life · Professional environment · Society and · Financial health. All these problems and more can and will manifest themselves in a person suffering from a gambling addiction as well. What is gambling addiction and what are its signs? Known also as problem gambling or ludomania, gambling addiction simply means that an individual feels a need to gamble even if it is detrimental to him. Gambling can take on many forms – card games, betting, and even slots. Problem gambling is pathological and a person suffering from this will go on betting and gambling even if he or she continually loses money. Very often, gambling addicts continue gambling, despite their strong desire to stop their dangerous behavior. There are many ways in which gambling addiction will manifest itself. Some of the most common ways or signs are: · An individual being secretive about his gambling habit · Not being able to walk away from gambling even if it has brought on financial ruin · An inordinate time being spent on random gambling activities and · Using gambling as a means of getting away from problems such as depression, guilt and so on. It takes time Gambling addiction and treatment of the same – both take time to develop. A person becomes addicted to gambling only over a course of time. The high that he experiences when his gambling pays off can often be followed by losses. But a gambler will feel that he can recover money by gambling further, and this often leads to a vicious cycle. More money is poured into recovering lost money until an individual is addicted to bigger and bigger gambling risks. There are some pretty effective support systems and treatments for gambling addiction and it would be wise to invest attention and time in these programs if you or someone you know has a gambling problem. The emotional aspects Dealing with gambling addiction often begins in dealing with the emotional aspects. Experts recognize that there are certain emotional triggers that force an individual to head to the casinos or gambling dens. Such triggers could be loneliness, depression, stress and even anxiety. It is extremely important to identify the factors that cause these stresses and then incorporate healthier ways of dealing with them. For instance, spending time with a counselor or a friend could be more useful than going gambling. Group support Like most other de-addiction programs, gambling too has support groups which help people deal with problem gambling. The 12-step recovery programs of Gamblers Anonymous or behavioral therapy given by professionals have proven to be very effective in helping people. The key is to start with acknowledging that a gambling problem exists and that it is imperative to seek help. Many program participants succeed because they address the need to change the way the mind deals with the need to gamble. Making a permanent change in behavior requires complete individual participation, effective treatment therapy and a strong support system.
  3. My best way to stop gambling

    What helped me to stop gambling was the recognition that Gambling responsibly is a myth, it doesn't exist - as well as the recognition that Gambling is not a form of entertainment !! I used to think that I can gamble responsibly, control my balance, and "enjoy" it, but that is what the gambling industry wants you to believe. Bookmakers have websites (and shops) including signs and webpages discuss "Gambling within your means" and suggest you "tips" and ideas how to control your gambling, such as "never bet more than you can afford" and other suggestions - so I would tell you "never bet at all !!!" - don't tell yourself "never bet more than you can afford", that's an illusion, a lie, fraud and deception! Don't believe the gambling industry, don't believe what they tell you. Let's take Ladbrokes for example, discussing their "Responsible Gambling": http://help.ladbrokes.com/display/4/kb/article.aspx?aid=1077 They mention 4 ideas for "Staying in control", so according to them: Gambling should be entertaining and not seen as a way of making money Avoid chasing losses Only gamble what you can afford to lose Keep track of the time and amount you spend gambling So what do I really think about these 4 ideas? Gambling should be entertaining and not seen as a way of making money - Gambling is NOT entertaining in anyway, and it's the perfect way to lose your time and money, hard earned money, in a split of seconds (or more) to an industry that would do anything to get its hands on your hard earned money, and once it gets it, it would never ever give it back to you. Avoid chasing losses - Avoid betting at all! Don't bet at all and you would never find yourself chasing losses. In fact, I've stopped gambling and that is how I really avoided chasing losses. You need to understand they use these words on purporse to lure you back into gambling, they won't stop you from chasing losses, on the contrary! They will smile everytime you do so ... so by all means don't bet at all ... by not betting you're not only avoiding "chasing losses" but you're not getting into it in the first place! Only gamble what you can afford to lose - How would you feel if I tell you "only give me what you can afford?" you would throw me off the stairs, would you? You don't know me, you don't need to give your hard earned money to me ... so why are you giving your hard earned money to the gambling industry? You should tell yourself "only donate what you can afford" for charity, for the right purposes ... but you should definitely not gamble, not even once, because once you start - you cannot stop your losses, and you can end up losing more than you can afford, and that's a guarantee! So don't listen to them ... they tell you "yes, you can gamble, but watch how much you spend" - I tell you instead, do not gamble, not even once more! Keep track of the time and amount you spend gambling - Now that's ridiculous! They want you to "work" for them?! Seriously, you need to spend the time preparing tables and timetable sheets for you to recognize how much time you dedicate to gambling? Besides handing your hard earned money to the gambling industry, why don't you give them a hug as well? That is so ridiculuos - don't gamble, don't bet, you would have plenty of free time for you to spend with your family and friends, you would have more money in your bank, and you wouldn't waste time doing what the gambling industry suggests you to do, which is so ridiculous. The Rambam was a great Jewish Rabbi, he was a very famous person and people from all over the world studied and study his books, including many universities and the academy in general who uses his texts for many purposes. He said if a person has a problem he should not take the middle way but the extreme way. For example, if someone has eating disorders and he can't stop eating, he should not tell himself "I can control it" and try to eat moderately - instead, he should do all it takes, put barriers, use his family and any other means for him to stop eating and AVOID THE OPTION of eating. Same way about gambling, you should do everything you with your means (and even more) to stop. You should not even buy a lottery ticket in your condition, you should take the EXTREME way for staying outside of the gambling world. Now if you ask me, I wouldn't call it the extreme way but the sane, logical and normal way of living your life ... however if you are here reading this then what I say is for you, not for anyone else - so please do not tell yourself you can control it, don't ever use this hype, don't ever tell your mind to think this way - do all that it takes to treat gambling as something you hate, despise and that way you would stop gambling. Treat gambling as a "friend" or as a form of "entertainment" - and you would lose, big time, money and time, and you could lose plenty of those in the long run! Gambling is not your friend and is not a form of entertainment! It should never be approached this way. Gambling is a way for bookmakers and the gambling industry to take money from you, pure and simple. I hope you can understand this so you can have a better journey in life. Be well.
  4. Its a rainy Tuesday, around 1 in the afternoon. I am headed back downtown to my secret place. While in the car, I pump myself up by blasting the music, running over and over in my head how I see the next 4 to 5 hours going. I begin my mantra "be smart, be up $300 and leave. Don't stay for too long. You always lose more the longer you stay, In and out. You got this, no one can beat you. Play smart". I pull up to the second floor of the parking garage and as I step out of my car I catch a glimpse of the lights, now all of my sense's are engaged and my mantra continues... "I am ready to win today, let's go." I step into the elevator with the music playing and the Las Vegas photos all around me. Ding. the elevator door opens and I am there, the outside world does not exist. I am whoever I want to be, there are no worries. 7 hours later I step back into the same elevator, music still playing with the same Vegas photos and all I want to do is scream. The dream I had 7 hours ago in regards to how the day would turn out has turned into my nightmare. I open my car door, take off my jacket because I cannot stand the smell of the casino and the memories it brings back. I start my car and head home. I stop on the way home with my last $20 I have on me and use it to put gas in the car. Reality sets in, what just happened? I can't believe myself! Then the shame and the embarrassment set in. 2 days ago I told myself that I "would never go back, I'm done for real this time." Obviously that worked... Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. I have spent 3 years in this pattern of thinking things would change and be different. Thinking just from a little win one day that the tides have turned, "lady luck is back in my corner, I am back on top, I am in control." We have all felt this way, felt like things could change, should change, yet we ALWAYS go back for more. We think we are untouchable. The thing is though, we are not. We are constantly assaulted by our habit, by our addiction. I lived in denial for 3 years about my "secret." When someone asked me what I was up to, I was always "at dinner" or "busy" or I would simply ignore the inquirer and focus on the high I was on the poker table. The purpose of the this blog is to share bits and pieces of my story with you. To let you know that you are not alone, to let you know that there is a way out. I am not here to fix anyone, I am here to offer my insight and tips on living a better life; one without a secret. From the mountains to the valleys of living life addicted to the lights, sounds, smells, and environment of the Casino. From one addict to another. TheGamblingAddictionblog.com -C
  5. My story

    I don't really know where to start… kind of like my gambling addiction, except I had no problem starting the bet, just a very big issue of not knowing when to stop, until that day of 7th October 2016 after loosing £250… it's 10am mind and I'm down to £20 in my bank knowing full well I need to buy food and fuel for the rest of the week, it was this moment when I took a long hard look at myself and I thought what the hell am I doing to myself? This cannot go on… the sleepless nights, the exclusion from social activities, the pain and stress I was putting my body through and disgusting amount of debts. I remember my first ever bet, at the young age of 17 – a £3 bet on a football match, I remember it well - Sampdoria vs Palermo, deep into the second half with the score at 1-1 I placed a £3 bet at 12/1 on Palermo to win… bang! A goal within 5 minutes and that saw me win £39, what a great feeling that was… little did I know that this was going to become a root to hell. My gambling after that was under control, £5-£15 a week often at weekends when there was a big fixture list with the football or the horses. In 2013 and I achieved a great thing in my life… going to university, I was proud and willing to work hard. But with university comes a loan and with a loan of £3000 comes a healthy bank balance, perfect for a gambling addict (to be). Because I had such a large amount of money in the bank, I started to up my stakes from £5-10 to £50-100.. and if I lost, I would just chase and chase until I won back all the money and was even again. I can remember one evening I was £500 down (not for the last time), but still completely oblivious to what I was doing and how much this would impact me. I placed another £100 accumulator at the odds of 9/2 and somehow managed to win thanks to a Athletic Bilbao equaliser against Real Madrid… scenes, I was ecstatic.. I won all the money back, this completely cancelled out the fact that I just lost £500 in my previous bets and could have been £600 if it wasn't for a single goal. It's similar to a relationship break up… just thinking of the good moments and thinking everything will be ok but never the bad moments and never the underlying problems. I didn't enjoy uni, and quit within 7 months, I had a few family issues and just wasn't enjoying it.. whether this was down to my gambling or not, I don't know… my head was screwed. After quitting uni, I found myself a job and started earning again - still gambling heavy every day - £100 stakes. I had an offer from 2 friends to travel around Europe for a month, at the time I was earning and living with parents & paying not a lot of rent, so money shouldn't be an issue - but it was, all stemmed from gambling, I really wanted to go but didn't have the money. Within a week I managed to get a £2000 bank loan to go traveling... this opened the long and dark road of loans and debts. Even throughout my travelling in Europe, I managed to still gamble whenever I could, just hoping the hostel we were staying In had internet and a computer. Throughout my gambling addiction I had 7 bank loans.. totalling £11,350 (not including interest) and over 30 pay day loans. When I look at this now, it makes me feel sick to the bone, At the time I was completely brainwashed, not thinking what's best for me.. every week was a struggle to get by, hence why I resorted to the pay day loans to get me through and help pay for things that shouldn't be an issue. I was living a double life, not one of my friends or family knew what I was going through, deep inside I just wanted to cry, give up and run away and escape from the hell.. but I acted normal with a smile on my face. Just embarrassed and scared of what they would think of me. I was in bubble and lost all sense of money. I was never interested in roulette, just sports betting... Football, Tennis, Darts, Horses, even Snooker, which I have no interest in what so ever, so I was clearly losing my head, just looking for the right odds or even if I wanted to get my fix, I would throw money on something I knew nothing about… I just wanted that buzz from winning money.. Online gambling is a killer, so mainstream and advertised – every TV advert has a gambling promotion, trying to suck people in and some people fall for it… like myself. £100 becomes just a number on a screen and you're able to deposit thousands within a few seconds - very dangerous for a addict. I used to dread looking at my bank balance because I knew how low it would be, and how much financial problems it would cause. My average stake was £100, sometimes £200. The worst day I've had I lost £700... that's a holiday or a car or 2 and half weeks of hard work... gone, within 12 hours. Disgusting. I feel like a haven't lived my life for the last 3 years, just on a dark and downhill spiral of gambling, it really did take over my life... I would lie to friends that I couldn't go out just because I wanted to get home from work and gamble all night. For some reason I was still enjoying it, absolutely brain dead is the right description. A few months leading up to me quitting,, I won £3089 from £5 on a bet... elated at the time but within 2 months it was all gone, no and that wasn't from going on a holiday and a big shopping trip… well, you guessed it… gambling. One of my many problems was the fact that I always thought the cure for my gambling debts was to keep gambling and win big to pay them all off. Completely brainwashed. Often staying up throughout the night gambling on tennis & football matches and forever on the FlashScores app on the phone to the point where it was affecting my work and my phone bill was sky high due to all the data being used. Sorry for the length of this, but I have never spoken to anyone about this so it's just been building up inside me for years and it feels so good to just let it all out, because that old cliche of "talking helps" is true, it really is.. I haven't gambled in 32 days and every day I feel happier, i had an urge to gamble about a week into my recovery but I just reminded myself that I don't want to go back to the dark days and I'm better than that now. I promised myself I'm never going to gamble again and deep down I know I'm not going to. I'm so much better off without it, I'm done with it and it doesn't interest me in the slightest. The most important part is realising you have a problem and acting, don't mope… get out there and do something, socialise with mates, take up a hobby. Keep your brain active, because from my experience just sitting in my room brings back back memory's of when I used to sit there for hours gambling away. So whoever is reading this, you can do it to! Burst that bubble and take it step by step - it will be hard to begin with, but the outcome is great.. you will rediscover yourself and become a lot happier, and find that your relationship with friends and family will improve. It's never too late, I'm so glad it's behind me and I can get on with my life. Thanks!
  6. I have struggled in the past and found the best remedy to be getting it all out in the open, it gives you a sense of power over the addiction, I think you have to persevere with it though and continue to talk about it or else it could sneak back into your life. You can get a good account of it in Down the Slot which is available on Amazon. The link is below, you may have to paste the entire link to your browser. https://www.amazon.com/Down-Slot-Derek-Anthony-Gibson-ebook/dp/B01MTJ3F6I/ref=sr_1_9?ie=UTF8&qid=1478348466&sr=8-9&keywords=down+the+slot Has anyone anything else they do regularly to keep the demons at away?
  7. 22nd of December - Playing with the devil

    So after yesterday's crazy day I had in my account a balance of $5,848. I thought this okay to stop, and just waited for the website to process my withdrawal but it did take its own time (why not). So I played along with those funds of $848, betting on some VTB United Basketball matches, losing all of the $848 so quickly: So okay, I got left with $5,000 - that still puts me in profit, right? Wrong! I had to get this money back, I couldn't "live" with the fact I lost it so quickly, so I placed $1,000 on the NBA on the early game again: It was a live bet during the 1st quarter, the initial line was -12.5, and I started to "kick" myself why I couldn't take the initial line of -12.5.... but guess what - it wouldn't have helped anyway!! It was 108-90 with a few minutes to go but the Raptors just let New York to cut it down: So I was finally back to that point of understanding I can't control gambling ... even the NBA, what's the difference between throwing a dice, spinning a roulette or betting on an NBA outcome where the result can change just like the color of the roulette so quickly! So I was down to $4,000 now (from $5,848).... Don't ask me why - this is the moment when gamblers just do this "suicide", they just toss everything, forget about it all, and simply decide to jump into the pool.... ! I placed another bet of $2,000 and this time it was a much more quick one, not one that had lots of thoughts about it like the NYK-TOR bet ... I did think about this "under" already simply because I believe the NBA continued its "under" trend from yesterday (I was right about it) .... here is my bet: So risking $2,000 knowing just a few moments ago I had $5,848 and now I have $2,000 left with a pending $2,000 bet .... I fell asleep, woke up just to check the results and realized it was a winning one: I have a strong feeling not to mess around with this anymore. The balance is now $5,920 (even $72 more than before). I'm staying strong and would like to go through these 1,2,3-7 days of being clean of gambling, I honestly felt with all this that I'm playing with the devil, it did make me a different person, and it was bad for me. I want out.
  8. Hello everyone, I used to gamble already since I was around 16 years old. This coming April (2014) I would be 29 years old. I don't want to talk right now much about how I used to bet, but I can tell you, like probably many of you, I believed that I can make money from gambling, and that I can win by beating the system. What made me stop gambling and realize this is not even a habit was the fact I've realized that there is no such thing as responsible gambling - that is a myth, mainly created by the gambling industry itself. You must understand, that you either bet and go into a really bad venture that would take you out of control and cause you to lose money, or you either avoid it by all costs. Just like you avoid jumping into traffic or avoid hurting yourself - same way with gambling, you should avoid that bet, any type of bet, whether it's a bet of 1 dollar or 1000 dollars ... it doesn't matter if it's roulette or sports betting, the chances to win are the same in both cases. Oddsmakers know their job better than you, and even if you manage to "beat" them, you don't ... definitely not in the long term. I suggest anyone who wants to stop gambling for good and recover from this disease to read the book "Gambling Facts and Fictions". This book talks about the points thay many others don't talk about. It shows you why you have no chance to win money in gambling and put that information deep inside, so you would feel disgusted of even thinking to bet one more time. Also put all your feelings into it, the feelings are part of recovery and you need them to help and assist and guide you into the right way. I would keep on updating my diary from time to time. You are all welcome to write your own diaries here and share your stories as well. Thanks!
  9. Grasp Group

    I fully recommend everyone to use this website, Grasp Group. Unlike Gamcare, they do provide better support to those who want to stop gambling, and unlike Gamcare they don't censor posts related to the gambling industry or to pure facts about gambling. Lastly, they are not funded by the gambling industry, so they provide an impartial/unbiased information, which is vital to anyone who wants to stop gambling. Visit it here: http://www.grasp-group.org.uk Thanks, GamblingStories.com
  10. The ICE exhibition would take place between the 4th and 6th of February 2014. If you don't know what it is, ICE exhibition is basically a place where many of the people involved in the gambling industry meet and share information. It is quite a "big event" so you can imagine why it's important for the police to keep the order there. The interesting part however is the fact the police needs to prepare in advance for such events. I can tell you I've personally been to many exhibitions and the police never took a big part there same way they do with ICE. Why is that, you're probably asking? Because you can imagine in a fair and just world what should really happen to all these organisations involved. Take a look here: http://www.icetotallygaming.com/admin/story/police-target-ice The police wants to "assure the gaming industry that attacks against them will be dealt with as a crime". Police confirms that "Cyber Crime attacks on operators both front and back of house are on the rise". The police says they are part of the event. Yes, this is no wrong. The police and the gambling industry are working jointly together. That is why you should never bet again, don't ever encourage the gambling industry anymore. If you don't bet, you would get that industry to suffer. So don't bet, and don't lose your hard earned money.
  11. Welcome and Greetings, I was a compulsive gambler. At the time of posting this post, my age was between 28 and 29 years old. I started betting (mainly on sports) - since I was approximately 15 years old. I created this forum in order to share gambling stories that can teach others about the implications of gambling. Everyone is invited to share his/her own story, I'm also gathering lots of stories which are available to read in this forum, and I've also documented my own gambling life and afterlife - my own story involving all the emotions and anything that was crossing my mind whilst I was betting and after I completely stopped gambling. The forum contains many links and many sources of information to stop gambling, and I welcome each and everyone of you to participate. Along with all that, I wish you all a safe and pleasant recovery.